Man going limp, woman uptight; has this happened to you?
Man going limp, woman uptight; has this happened to you? A client was in a new relationship with a man she liked, but was having trouble when it came to sex. There was great chemistry between them, he was very kind & giving to her but when it came to sex they were running hot & cold. She came to me for advice & this is what we discovered.
When he would become aggressive & passionate, her defenses would go up. She wanted to get to know him & build the excitement, but in the process was becoming too mental. Her defenses went up, so the more passionate he became the more defensive she became.
Flip side. She began to drop her defenses, would allow him to carry her to bed, start getting sexual & he would go limp, then fall asleep. Wine, stress & sleep deprivation were partially to blame, but when this happened several times she got concerned. Was she turning him on, did she screw it up or confuse him by wanting to wait? Was this the best it was going to be? She felt very confused, disappointed & started to consider ending the relationship. After the last time of trying, she laid beside him feeling a million miles apart, listened to him snoring then went home determined that was the end of the relationship.
So is there any hope here? Is the relationship over? Have you had these experiences? How did you handle it? What’s your advice?
Sexuality can be incredible & confusing. Obviously chemistry comes into play, we have all felt sexual attraction. Mental, physical, emotional, beliefs, etc also effect our feelings, but did you know that energy also can be involved with how you have sex?
Let me show you more about the energetic perspective of the story above. The two people were pushing the extremes. Often people will mirror the areas we need to work on in relationship.
- She would put up defenses in his intensity, she would get turned on when he was asleep.
- He would get passionate, push her limits then fall asleep when she would become attentive. He felt she made him calm, but would check out in the feminine energy.
From an energetic perspective, they were learning to access the extremes of their connection. She needed to learn to be vulnerable & open, he needed to continue his drive in the calm places.
Through communication, the two were able to bridge this gap. They decided to play with the extremes & work as a team on experiencing more pleasure than they had previously been able to access.
Try this exercise:
- When an emotional or energetic block comes up, try to watch your reaction. If possible, watch it from a 3rd party perspective. For example, you notice that you are becoming reactive, putting up a defensive wall, pulling away.
- Stop yourself, breath, ask yourself “What am I reacting to?”Perhaps it is the position, you have lost connection, you need a break, past conditioning, etc.
- Play with your extremes.
- Knowing that she was challenged with being vulnerable, she would witness when she would put up her defenses.
- During this time she would have self talk to see that she was safe in his arms, that she could allow him to love her, that she could become vulnerable and let this man adore her.
- With this agreement, he could continue being masculine without pulling back when she put up her defenses.
- Without forcing her, he could lovingly connect with her through the vulnerable places allowing for more connection vs. separation.
- She lets down the guard and he can penetrate deeper into their connection even if it is only in holding her. This will build the intimacy, connection, trust and relationship.
Realize where your wins can be & pursue there. In this case it was easier for the woman to let down her guard & for him to hold his masculine, than for him to be in her presence without going soft. This is where they start their agreement.
- She gives him permission to push her buttons a bit, knowing she is safe.
- They start here, at their place where success can be found.
- Many couples start at the problem, this will only agitate the situation & cause separation. Imagine had they chosen for her to stay in her aggressor place, he is going soft, falling asleep, disconnected. She would probably get frustrated, take it personally, put up her defenses, jeopardize their relationship by demeaning him or his penis, it just wouldn’t work. (literally). Instead, keep it at the win.
Find the easiest place where the two of you can meet in this difficult place & bridge the gap.
Polarity can be fun to play with, it can heighten the pleasure between partners or it can make you go limp. Let me know if you would like to know more about energy & how to have incredible sex.
If you are experiencing sexual blocks & would like help in overcoming these, check out my website at UnlockBlocks.com or contact Jeanne Lupypciw for an appointment.
Tips for Men: What to do when a woman _________
Do you find women confusing, sending mixed messages when they are upset? Here are a few tips I found from Trine Rabben in Norway that helps to clarify some of the responses women would like to get from men. Try them out & let me know how they worked for you. If you have any other suggestions, please add them to the comments below. Take care, hope this helps you have amazing relationships.
Jeanne Lupypciw Unlockblocks.com
When she walks away from you mad
[ Follow her ]
When she stare’s at your mouth
[ Kiss her ]
When she pushes you or hit’s you
[ Grab her and don't let go ]
When she starts cussing at you
[ Kiss her and tell her you love her ]
When she’s quiet
[ Ask her whats wrong ]
When she ignores you
[ Give her your attention ]
When she pulls away
[ Pull her back ]
When you see her at her worst
[ Tell her she's beautiful ]
When you see her start crying
[Just hold her and don't say a word ]
When you see her walking
[ Sneak up and hug her waist from behind ]
When she’s scared
[ Protect her ]
When she lays her head on your shoulder
[ Tilt her head up and kiss her ]
When she teases you
[ Tease her back and make her laugh ]
When she doesn’t answer for a long time
[ reassure her that everything is okay ]
When she says that she likes you
[ she really does more than you could understand ]
When she grabs at your hands
[ Hold hers and play with her fingers ]
When she bumps into you
[ bump into her back and make her laugh ]
When she looks at you in your eyes
[ don't look away until she does ]
When she says its over
[ she still wants you to be hers ]
When she repost this bulletin
[ she wants you to read it ]
Meditation: How to Quiet Your Mind
Meditation is a powerful way to quiet your mind & connect to your higher wisdom. Often people ask me about meditation, so I wanted to share some insight with you.
The biggest issue beginners face is mind chatter.
Mind chatter is all the thoughts, list of to do’s, our litttle voice telling us what we should have said or done, etc. This can be annoying when you are trying to ask God for all the answers, quiet your mind and all you can do is think of all the other things you should be doing in that moment. Many people give up at that time.
If you go into meditation with no expectations & just allow the thoughts to pass by like clouds, you will begin to notice that these are just thoughts. Many do not require action, they are just thoughts.
This is where you can relax a bit more & breathe. In fact meditation is more about relaxing, so practice counting your breathe in the beginning.
Try this exercise:
- Sit in a quiet place, close your eyes and breathe in counting 1,2,3 breathe out 1,2,3. Keep breathing in & out counting to 3.
- To go a step further try breathing in through your nose making your belly rise on the inhale.
- Many people have learned to suck in their belly so you may be breathing in reverse. To get a true inhale it is best to breathe in deep through your nose allowing your belly to rise.
- On the exhale, pull your belly in clearing all the air from your lungs.
- Continue counting in & out to counts of 3 then see if you can extend the count to 4 or 5 or more.
- Don’t push yourself, it is a calm breath expanding your lungs slowly.
Start here & let me know when you are ready for the next step. Enjoy
Jeanne Lupypciw UnlockBlocks.com
I have included a video from Michael Beckwith who was a teacher in The Secret & founder of Agape Spiritual Community. I have meditated with Michael for years and thought you would enjoy this video.
Competition: Shifting Our Focus For Our Highest Potential
Are you fighting the competition or utilizing it for your highest potential? I like the article below by Lightworker.com. With this enlarged view we are going to take the word competition and show you a new way to look at it.
Redefining the Word Competition
For a very long time, there have been the positives and the negatives of competition. There has been competition where one must succeed, one must do better than all the rest. The good part is that when you have a runner running beside you, it is easier to beat your own personal record and therefore, one person competing with another has good effects. The negative effects are that it encourages the illusion of separation.
So, let us rewrap this into the new concepts of the higher vibrations and look at this for what it truly is from a new idea, a new perspective. No longer is it necessary to be in the first wave of empowerment.
The first wave is follow the leader.
Now you are stepping into the second wave of empowerment which is follow yourself.
It is infinitely more difficult to follow yourself than it is to follow in the footsteps of another before you. Now we are asking you as teachers to start grasping that concept and start walking beside your students in an expression of unity where you can be seen and they can see, and you can walk together as one growing together at different levels.
Then we ask you to take that into the area of competition because it has always been about separation.
Now we ask you to dissolve those walls and start looking at competition as unity for you can make a difference on this planet if you will only connect hearts. If you only connect one-tenth of the hearts on this planet, there will be no room for war; there will be no room for separation. There will be no room for competition in the old energy—the way it used to be.
We ask that you now look at this as a synergy of working together with people for that part of competition where you used to be able to run faster because you had someone pushing you, now that energy can now be brought into you and carried with you into everything you do without the separation.
This is synergy.
Synergy is working in cooperation with all things around you.
It is an area of working with grace where you are starting to connect to all things and all people, where you can walk on the grass in a pristine meadow and it will grow stronger, not weaker, because you stepped on it. You will not damage it, but it will benefit from your passing that way. There is a connection of grace with all things and if you now look at that in the areas where you used to look in competition, you will see that it has changed
You have shifted your energy.
You are high vibrational beings still playing a game in a low-vibrational world.
By leading that way, you are bringing everyone up with you…everyone around you. It does not make any difference who wins the game or who crosses the finish line first.
Everyone is going faster.
Everyone is improving because all of you can be in it together and that is a different type of competition. That is a new energy competition that will work as a synergy, as a part of everyone together.
If you are interested in synergy and would like to play at the next level of the game post a reply or link and let me know what you need.
All the best,
Jeanne Lupypciw “Unlocking Blocks To Your Success” UnlockBlocks.com
Is Your Body Getting Rewired Now? Can You Handle The Change?
Has this been a time of change for you? Have you been feeling the shifts in your physical & emotional bodies this month. Many clients are feeling a disconnect, depression, or going through major change in their lives. With the recession fears, gas prices going up, uncertainty and illness is all around us. Here is an article by Lightworker.com that offers suggestions as these new opportunities and challenges face us.
What to look for: There are new opportunities and new challenges as a result of this contact (with our higher self ) and we offer you suggestions for those connections. There are new ways of receiving guidance in this energy, so let us share a few of the ideas that will help.
We have been planting seeds about opportunities and concepts for a very long time, which will become more important to you as you evolve the collective vibration of humanity. Today we wish to offer another piece of this.
We have spoken about the rewire that is going on.
All humans everywhere are forming new wiring throughout their physical being to enable them to carry more light.
More of your light and your own higher self can fit into the new body.
The challenges in the meantime are going to mean change.
Humans resist change. That is part of your nature. Even though all change leads to something better, you naturally resist it, so welcome the change. Allow yourself to flow in the experience of life rather than become attached to a concept, a thought or a belief system.
As this happens, everything is going to start shifting: all of your previous paradigms, all of your previous belief systems and the connections you have to each other as well as the connections you have to Home are all getting stronger.
You are moving from the field of duality where you see everything as opposites—up and down, right and wrong—to a field of triality with a new connection to the higher self. The new connection lets you see more of the way we see it at Home. It lets you see more of what your human experience is all about for that is what you are doing.
You are spirits pretending to have a human experience so that you can define god, so that you can see yourselves and the experience of all humanity. Let us give you a new concept today for we will start planting many of these seeds of living in the higher vibrations of the New Planet Earth but first, we will caution you not to give your power away to us or any message. It is important that you honor the discernment within your own being for your spirit knows what is right for you at this moment. We ask you to run everything that we say or give you through your own filters and take only those pieces which resonate with your heart. Do not give that away to us or to anyone. Hold that sacred to you because that is your individual piece. That is your unique part of god that will never go away. You will develop it. You will find ways of making it stronger and bringing more of the light into the physical body.
As the rewire happens, new synaptic pathways and ways of communicating between the two halves of the brain are shifting radically every day. This can also cause more of a separation anxiety. It can make many of you feel alone and unsettled. Many times this will affect relationships because when you build a relationship on one level and your harmonic vibrations suddenly rise to another level, you may feel alone at first. It does not mean that you are alone. It is not possible for you to be alone because you are part of everything and everyone, including us.
If you would like more information or need help shifting through this time please email Jeanne Lupypciw or UnlockBlocks.com
Parents: Do you know what your Children Are Storing? Stop it now
I am amazed with the long term effects I see that parents have on their children. Often the little things we say can conflict with the vulnerable minds/spirits of our children. A simple conflict, how would you handle this? A child is drawing on the wall. At the peak of their creativity & happiness you walk in & yell at them. 
You may have been surprised, angry & felt right to yell at them. Unfortunately, this moment may have caused an instant reaction in your child. Internally, the subconscious of the child begins to set programs to keep the child safe. It comes to the belief “When I am happy & creative I get in trouble”. Through the years the child may limit their creativity & joy.
Many of my clients are incredible people who survived abusive behavior from their parents. Today I was working on someone who was constantly told she was bad. Her parents had a paddle in every room that they used to slap her with. I know this is typical parenting for some, but I wanted to share the energetic patterns that resulted in it. As we were clearing various emotions to help my client be strong in her life, the paddling came up stored as pain in her butt where the paddle had hit 30 years later.
Many children are coming into my office now. Yesterday a 6 year old little boy climbed on my table & wanted a treatment. It was his first time to my office & they were there to have the mother treated. The boy wouldn’t budge. Intuitively he knew that he needed to have a clearing. Sure enough, his head points were not communicating & he was storing guilt which was making him sick. Guilt is a typical behavior that children have, he felt bad about hurting his friends feelings, about not being a good boy, about many areas of his life. Unfortunately, these feelings push us over our tolerance & begin to lock into the subconscious. Without clearing these, the body can begin to develop anxiety, fears, illness & other limiting behavior. They may believe they are not good enough & suffer with friendships, school and eventually carry over into our adult life.
Stop the limiting behavior now & help your child to improve their self esteem & health. This light touch emotional balancing, helps the brain, nerves, emotions, health, focus & esteem of the child. Two year olds know the value of this balancing, as they lead their parents into my office. Kids ask their parents if they can come get an adjustment, they feel better when they see me & the effects are incredible.
If you have any questions or would like to make an appointment please contact Jeanne at N8Inspiration@mac.com or UnlockBlocks.com.
Here are a few testimonials from the children.
Thank you Jeanne for helping me last night. After we hung up I threw up one more time & then I got better in 10 minutes. What you did worked great. I was able to attend the Sea Princess, I am so happy. I love you so much. Thank you.
Karen 8 years old
Phone Appt Los Angeles 5/07
Illness, Anxiety, Family
I wanted to see you again because when I was afraid of the dog you helped me not be scared. Now I need braces and I am so afraid of the dentist. I asked mom to bring me because I know you can help me.
Sophie 10 years old
Los Angeles, CA 2/08
Fear, Anxiety
When I work with you I feel better. I can concentrate on my school work, I feel better in my body. I asked my mom to bring me here because I have a big test coming up and I wanted to be able to focus and do good on it.
Emmet Age 14
Los Angeles, Ca 11/07
Focus, Self Esteem, Health
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Jeanne Lupypciw is an Inspirational Leader, Transformational Healer & Life Coach who specializes in helping people clear the blocks to their success.
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