How Much Love Can You Handle? Giving & Receiving Balance

How much love can you handle? Is your Giving & Receiving in Balance? Over the past month I have been challenged to receive more. Friends have shown where my giving is out of balance. I love to give & have made my career out of helping others, yet at their urging I am looking deeper at this need.

I have been asking the Universe to provide for me & feel blessed with many aspects of my life. In exploring this issue deeply, I realized that I had my hand on the give button & would only let a little receiving in before I had to give again. I was blocking my own channel of receiving.

As I looked into my feelings I realized that there is a sense of vulnerability that comes into play when you receive. As a child I needed to take care of others, to solve the problem, be the older sister. I was raised to have the right answer & fix things. This programming has continued through life without me being aware of it. This conditioning has caused me to be self sufficient & solve the problems. By receiving, even though I wanted to, I was going against my conditioning of knowing what to do. In a way it was admitting defeat to receive help. So not true, but my work with identifying subconscious programs & clearing them made me want to correct this in me.

What I saw is that it took me being broken, sick, massively in need before I would ask for help or receive it. Gratefully my friends showed me that when we don’t receive, it blocks others from their need to give. Since “receiving” this valuable information, I have been pleasantly surprised how much I have been offered in life.

I am working through relaxing my give button & allowing the gifts to come. I see where guilt arises around not feeling worthy of such kindness (even though I would provide the same gift without thinking twice about it), I see my need to reciprocate (tit for tat, needs to be equal) and releasing my fears to trust & be loved by others.

We have learned to give, to share, to be nice & not be selfish.

Check to see if your programming is out of balance.

• Do you have problems receiving?
• Do you give & not have it reciprocated?
• Do you use this as a means of control?
• By receiving from someone, are there strings attached? Do you feel obligated?

These are the start to begin receiving the gifts you desire.  If you would like help seeing your blindspots & clearing you subconscious blocks to receiving, please contact Jeanne Lupypciw at unlockblocks@mac.com for a consultation.

Thanks to the amazing people in my life who ask me to be selfish, to love myself more & to receive their love, you are truly an incredible gift to me.

Today I received this article from Kypris. I loved her suggestions on the receiving altar & will begin filling mine today. All the best to you, Jeanne Lupypciw

How Much Love Can You Handle by Kypris
It is the new year and as I often do, I think about what I want to bring in to my life for the year. This year I am focusing on receiving, in ALL areas of my life.

Have you ever noticed that it is easy to give, but oh, SO hard to receive?

Over the holidays, what do we focus on? We focus on what presents we are going to give to which person, and whether or not they will like it. And if we forget someone, we feel horrible. But do we focus on receiving gifts well? Do we make an effort to say thank you, and to show our appreciation for the gifts, and to put them to use right away in our life?

I have a receiving altar, AKA an abundance altar, in my bedroom. Whenever I receive ANYTHING, be it money, gifts, love notes, or a power object, I put it on my altar so that I can look at it several times each day and feel my gratitude for that gift in my heart. Then I make sure to start using that gift immediately if it is something I truly want to receive. And if it’s not? I pass it on to someone who is better suited to integrate that thing into their life.

This feels good to me, like I am finally starting to learn about the FLOW of abundance and love in life. Because let’s face it, gifts and money also have bits of LOVE attached to them. It is really hard to separate the two in my life. When someone gives me money for a session or an event or a book or video, it is because there is a bit of love in them for that thing that I’m providing. I get to feel that love when I receive the money into my life and send that love on when I spend the money. Do you see? Love and money are tied together.

Now I’m sure we’ll all agree that things have been challenging lately. We are in a bit of an economic downswirl, and I know it’s been frightening for many of us to feel the pinch. And fear can be so wonderful because it MOTIVATES. It has driven me to begin the process of making deep and lasting changes to my relationship with money, with love, and with sex.

I have talked about money and love, but what about SEX?

Here’s a newsflash for us all–take some time to let your partner give to you. Instead of focusing so much on how you can make them feel good, on how you can prove that you are the sexiest thing alive by showing off all your tantric positions and techniques, maybe just sit back and let yourself receive. Then give back. Then receive again. Let there be a give and take.

When I am receiving I have to be vulnerable, and that is scary. If I don’t respond with the appropriate orgasm or connection, if I am not able to receive because I am scared and I snap the energetic connection between us, then I fail. So when I have these feelings I just love myself more and say “open, open open—receive!”. If I am giving, then I can get stuck in wanting to control, in expecting a certain response from my partner, in goals. When this happens I take a breath, come back into this moment and trust Spirit to guide me to a better place than I could ever imagine.
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