Pain or Pleasure, which motivates the choices you make? I like living life to the fullest, so exploring both has been important in understanding what brings me the most joy.  Although you would probably not select pain as your preferred driving force in life, fear often motivates our choices and achievements. Are you in crisis mode, feeling stressed and frustrated?

Regain your power and increase your pleasure with these 3 simple steps.

Step 1: Determine Your Motivating Factor

What is Your Motivating Factor??

Asking yourself these 3 simple questions will help you understand if the choices you are making are motivated by fear or pleasure?

1. Do you get joy from what you are doing? It’s easy to get caught up in all the activities we have to do each day, but ask yourself how it values your life to be doing it. If you can’t answer the question, write this task on a list.

2. Why are you doing this? Are you stuck in a routine or are you excited to participate? Many people feel they have no choice to how their life is running and see no way out.  Each day is a boring routine of all they have to do, making them feel drained and frustrated.

3. What emotion is driving you? Often we will come from guilt, need, loneliness, fear and other negative emotions when doing a task.  Making dinner for your husband can come from love, but if you feel obligated, resentful or have to do it so he doesn’t get upset, you are creating internal stress and pain by continuing to make dinner.

Step 2: Change Your Mindset

1. Act from Pleasure

I find that people are pushing themselves so hard right now. This internal pressure to accomplish paired with a long list of responsibilities are leading to great stress and pain in the body.  If you were running and began to hurt, you would stop.  Yet in our life when the stress comes, often we will block it out and keep going.  While there is some value to accomplishing in this manner, I would like you to consider acting from pleasure rather than pain. Any task can be completed in multiple ways, consider how you can blend pleasure into the work. Listen to music to boost your spirit, mop the floor with your socks and have a potluck dinner with friends so you don’t have to cook so much.

If you were running and began to hurt, you would stop.

2. Being vs. Doing

Coming from the corporate world, I learned that I was important based on how much I could accomplish in a day.  After my layoff, I wrote a list of all the activities I was finally going to catch up on.  Six months later, the items that seemed so important were still on my list.  God had different plans for me and used this quiet time to awaken my intuition.  As I tuned into my deeper desires I realized I wanted to help people and left the corporate world for holistic medicine. I learned the importance of being quiet, listening for internal guidance: “Being” rather than “Doing”.  In this place I was able to accomplish what was most meaningful to me, have more joy in life and help many people.

Stop the routine to find you.

3. Change Perception

Often we get caught up in the routine of life, feeling overwhelmed with all we have to accomplish. If you were to die tomorrow would all the items be important?

I have a client who stressed about clearing boxes from her house for over 1 year. Each day she would worry about how long it would take her to do the project. Her husband was upset that the boxes filled the room, yet every day she was too busy to clean these.  She felt the items in the box were too valuable to throw away, no one else could help her sort through it and so the stress continued.  Today it occurred to her that the items in the box couldn’t be that valuable, since she hadn’t needed any of it over the past year.  Suddenly this project went from extreme stress to ease.  Nothing in the box changed, it was simply her perception that shifted. By looking at your tasks from new perspectives it is possible to reduce your stress, find new solutions and bring more joy to a situation.

• Are you spending more time stressing about a project than it takes to complete it? Check your perception.

4. Outsource

Focusing on what brings you pleasure, it is possible to increase your productivity.  When you are drained and frustrated you will not be working at your optimal pace. More can be accomplished by outsourcing the activities you don’t enjoy and focusing on what you are passionate about. Consider hiring an outsourcing expert online such as elance.com, Many projects can be completed for under $100 by a professional, saving you time with better results. You may also consider switching chores with your spouse or a friend. My husband loved cooking and grocery shopping and I enjoyed gardening. He made dinners and I mowed the lawn.

Be Productive where you are Passionate.

5. Be Selfish

Do you feel guilty being selfish and asking for what you want? Do you put other people’s needs ahead of your own? Why? You are the only one who knows how to truly give yourself pleasure. Think of a child that wants a toy.  They fall in love, want it with all their heart and will do everything possible to fulfill their needs, including tantrums and pleading.  Quickly we learn that we will be punished and separated if we can’t behave. This fear gets programmed deep inside to the extreme that people are afraid to ask for what they desire and are confused to what is appropriate. Practice being Selfish. People want to make you happy and will appreciate knowing what you like rather than having to guess. Chances are even at your extreme you will not be self-centered.

You are the only one who knows how to truly give yourself pleasure.

For years I was content going to any restaurant my friends wanted. I didn’t care if I ate Chinese or Italian food, I would find something on the menu that would be fine. Then I watched the Runaway Bride movie with Julia Roberts.  With each man she would meet she would eat different types of eggs.  She was challenged to choose what was her favorite? Scrambled, Poached, Fried? This made a big impact on me, realizing that I didn’t know what I truly liked. I had changed myself based on the people in my life too.  I set out on a journey of self-discovery, allowing myself to try new things, question what I may have denied myself previously or believed I didn’t like.  It can be fun to explore new cuisine, activities, and cultures.  Forget what you “know”, blindfold yourself if necessary, and discover the world in a pleasant new way. Finding out what you like is the first step, asking for what you need is the second.

Finding out what you like is the first step to fulfillment

asking for what you need is the second.

Step 3: Make Changes

1. Pain to Pleasure

Look at the list of your Motivational Factors.  Choose 1 task that is done from pain and determine if you can apply any of the suggestions from Step 2 to shift to pleasure.  If you need help seeing other possibilities, ask a friend, family member or contact Jeanne@LiveBeyondEcstasy.com for a free consultation.

2. Know Thyself

Choose an item below. Begin surrounding yourself with these pleasures.  It will increase your joy and give you permission to fulfill your needs. For added enjoyment, ask your friends and family to do the same and compare lists. If money is tight, share an imagined experience describing details to each other, look at brochures, be creative and share a vacation in your home.

• Make a list of what would make you happy.
• Think of several activities you would enjoy doing.
• What food do you love to taste?
• What sounds would you like to hear?
• How would you like to be touched? Spoken to?
• Quiet your mind, relax, and take a moment for you.

3. Practice Being Selfish

Practice being selfish, asking for what you need.  Push the limits a bit, so you can feel the internal guilt or ridicule from others.  It’s good to explore these emotions so you don’t let it limit your expression in life.

• Practice asking for 1 thing that you would like today.
• Choose the restaurant and order whatever you want (even if you have to pay for it)
• Feed yourself before your kids and savor each bite.
• Stand in a doorway and let people open it for you.
• Cut in line or traffic to see how it feels.
• Point to the places you would like to be touched and enjoy. Don’t reciprocate for 10 minutes.
• Come up with your own list of what being selfish is to you, then try a few.

Enjoy your life to the fullest. Explore what brings you pleasure and do it often.  You will be happier, healthier and more successful.  To Live Beyond Ecstasy contact Jeanne Lupypciw at Jeanne@LiveBeyondEcstasy.com.

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I had an interesting experience today that I wanted to share with you. As a motorcyclist passed by me, I felt respect for the perfection he strives for in himself.  Instantly, a wave of energy flood through my body and I began to cry, aware of a deep compassion that had just hit me.  I knew my weekend events held great significance, yet it wasn’t until that moment that all the pieces fit together for me.

I love exploring culture, moving beyond my comfort zone to see different perspectives in life.  I practice releasing my judgments and fears to be present so new wisdom can be learned.  This weekend I had the opportunity to participate in what many people would believe were opposing cultures.

Friday night I celebrated Krishna’s Birthday with an Indian Puja.  We dressed in white for purity to honor our guru Amma. We sang Hindu prayers called Bhajans, threw rose petals and meditated to connect with Spirit for several hours.

Sliding into my jeans, removing my mala beads I was handed a jello shot as I arrived at a gathering of Harley Bikers and Vets on the Indian Reservation later that night.  Excited to see my friend Kimko, I was surprised with the unexpected fears of gang rape, drugs, and violence that filled my mind as I approached the campground.

What I experienced from this point on changed the way I relate to men. Dimly lit, the field was covered with hundreds of tents placed inches from each other. Groups of men wearing black leather jackets covered with their clubs patches gathered together drinking beer and shaking hands. What could have been intimidating quickly turned to kindness as I was taken care of with food, laughter and welcomed into their family.

Honor, Respect and Brotherhood were core values demonstrated from these men at a level I have never seen before.  As the Bikers, Veterans, Soldiers and Native Indians gathered in ceremony, they spoke of Spirit, supporting each other and respecting the land.  They honored the POW’s, released ashes of a man who had died so they could be together each year and were proud to defend those in need.  Wanting to understand more, I ask many questions. When I went too far, they had compassion, gently teaching me how to respect their traditions and behave appropriately.

Releasing my fears, I climbed on the back of Kimko’s Harley and went for a long ride up the mountains.  Photographers shot pictures as the speed bikers skimmed the curves, but Kimko was cautious, fearful they could crash in front of us.  Our safety was most important to him, protecting us from danger.  The next few hours I witnessed great diversity.  I saw fear, judgment and separation shown by society that disappointed me as we stopped at restaurants.  Then I was amazed with the unspoken honor of the brotherhood, as every biker passed waving at us and warning of us of danger.

As a convoy of soldiers drove by on my way home, I found myself looking at each one, respecting and appreciating that they were protecting me.  Before this weekend, I had just seen soldiers, but had never related to them from this perspective.  As the motorcyclist passed I felt respect, which flooded my heart with compassion.  I understood unconditional love at a deep level, and suddenly felt the separation I had lived with by relating from this superficial place.

I challenge you to reach beyond your boundaries. Submerge yourself into the unknown. Release your fears and judgments so you can truly understand.  Let compassion flood your heart as you realize all you have been missing.

I am on my way to Las Vegas and feeling the excitement that is developing in my heart. I feel like all of the pieces are coming together and It’s exciting to see this. What I’m realizing is that it’s very important for us to come into a state of allowing & stop blocking our own progress.

I think as we go through transformation, there is a point of surrender that we get to of knowing that there are forces working that really help to encourage the development of our life. It can be God, faith, Spirit, angels, whatever you believe. With some transformation, it’s necessary to take a leap of faith, but what I see happening now is that is not necessary. We have built a solid foundation and now we just need to accept and allow the good to occur.

I have noticed this for myself and with my clients, that there is actually an ease that is occurring right now. In the past, in order to have our transformation, we had to make a choice and jump off of a cliff in a way, just having the faith that God would provide & everything would be okay.

At this time, it’s not necessary for that leap to occur. I’m seeing that there is a solid foundation and that we are stepping more into our own truth. In this truth, we are being surrounded by people that we love, that opportunities come very easily to us, that the structure, the cohesive unit is in place, so this change doesn’t have to be so intense.

Where it becomes intense is where in our minds, we feel like it has to be the leap. So really this awakening in our heart is about knowing that it really could be good, and that we could allow God to provide for us, that this move could happen with ease, and that there is no constriction. So it’s really about finding this total surrender and allowing God to provide to us, allowing the resources to be there with ease, allowing all of the good to be here instead of the struggles that we’ve known in the past.

I see that a very important step in this transformation is relaxing enough when you see all of the good. Be an observer, observing all of the pieces that are coming together and allow all of these pieces to happen. You have already been through the difficulty, now practice relaxing your mind to allow the good to occur. When you tense up, ask “how much good can I allow now”?

Points to Remember:
1. You have built a solid foundation & are surrounded by the people who can support you.
2. A leap of faith is not necessary this time.
3. Just relax & allow God to give you the blessings you deserve.
4. The challenges you face are the old fears trying to suppress you now.
5. Transformation can be easy, you have already done the hard part.
6. How much Joy can you handle?

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Ecstasy Coach Jeanne Lupypciw shares tips for ultimate pleasure in life.

Give, Receive, Experience. How to change your mindset to experience pleasure in new ways.

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Ecstasy Coach Jeanne Lupypciw shares tips for ultimate pleasure in life.

Whatever is the Point of acceptance where you can attract what you want to you. Relationships, Success, Job offers will come to you when you stop seeking them.

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Hi George,
Thanks for your question. (See below) Your mind may be working overtime to find coincidences to support your beliefs. This is very common. We can usually find support for or against what we believe to prove our point. What I have found is that it is best to not force your position. You may see things very clearly, but if she is stuck on her interpretation there will be no changing her mind until it is time to change. You can continue your place of loving & supporting her as you have or change your direction to cause a change.

One way to shift from friend to lover is to play with polarity. Do you know how to do this?
Polarity is the magnetic attraction that we have for each other. In each person there is a masculine & feminine. We can amplify one of these to create a greater magnetic attraction between people.

For example: In the 1950’s we had the macho man & the subservient wife. This strong masculine with soft feminine created a magnetic attraction.
In the 1980’s there was the working woman with the man who nurtured his sensitive side. Again there was an opposite attraction.

When both people are in their masculine they neutralize each other creating friendship vs. sexual chemistry & passion. Friendship can be great, but if you want to amp up the passion you need to create polarity.

To achieve this, one person needs to shift to feminine (creative, nurturing, beauty, flow) while the other is masculine (focused, driven, decisive). Either sex can be masculine or feminine. For ease of example lets make the man masculine, woman feminine.

One way that relationships get neutralized is when the woman is working, solving problems, managing, focused. She comes home & continues that role by taking care of kids, cleaning house, paying bills, etc. She is focused on achieving results. The man comes home from work also in masculine mode. They are able to discuss results, be productive, mental. They could have sex but probably from the mental “lets do it” mode vs dynamic chemistry that passionately drives them to want to have sex.

To shift the polarity from neutralized to magnetic you need to create a difference between the sexes. If you want more passion you need to adjust your level to what your friends level is. For example: If she is problem solver, talking to you on friend masculine level you can either go more masculine or more feminine in yourself.

To get more masculine surround yourself with guys, be more goal oriented, give yourself permission to be a man, have a warrior mindset, think of ravishing her without being the “nice guy”. Rather than flowing with her be direct, tell her what you want, practice being grounded in yourself vs. needing her.

To shift into the feminine: be more playful, artistic, listen to music, dance, go with the flow.

For women, if you want to spark more passion in your relationship try this:
1. Have days or times set aside to be a lover. Give yourself permission to play for the night, Leave the work or responsibilities behind.

2. Start by changing your mindset when you get home from work.

3. Create a ritual to nurture yourself/do something you love.
An example: Turn on some sensual music, light candles, take a warm bubble bath with essential oils or rose petals, dance.
Another: Put on sexy lingerie or dress in something that makes you feel gorgeous. Find your flirty feminine side.

4. Take care of yourself, do what you love, what brings you joy. When you laugh & are fulfilled you will naturally create chemistry with the masculine.

George: You can experiment with these concepts without her knowing. Before you go see her, watch some football, hang with the guys, solve a problem, do something you love. See if she notices, if there is more attraction, but don’t tell her what you are doing.

In the end, she may just want friendship with you. You can be friends or move on at this point. Either way you will be more confident & know how to drive a woman wild with your new skill of creating polarity.

Let me know how it goes.
All the best,
Jeanne Lupypciw

Responding to George’s question below:
OK, here is something that I need HELP to interpreting, just checking if my mind is working overtime. I have a very good female friend and I have known her 18 years. We were both married have kids, etc. We drift in and out each other’s life but nothing ever serious. I always knew there was something special about us but I never paid attention to it until 6 months ago. Everything just fell into place for me but not for her. She still considers us FRIENDS although neither one of us are dating anyone seriously at this time. I have tried to take it to the next level but I have failed every time. I try to point out things to her and she just treats them as coincidences. Her actions, her smile, and body language say one thing and yet she tells me another. Ok now that I gave you a brief insight here is the latest incident that has me convinced and I am not sure how to make her understand.

Her car broke down, bad strut. She took the car to a mechanic and they gave her a FREE loaner, something that was never offered before. Afterwards she went shopping and by coincidence she found a simple piece of wall art, 3 harts with crosses through them. The art means nothing to her, she just liked it.

I was over her house this past weekend and soon as I saw the artwork I told her my interpretation, and she agreed with my interpretation, but she did not see a meaning to the art until I pointed it out to her. Driving home I started to think about the whole series of incidents and I started to interpret those as well, they all happened in 2 days. They clearly paint a picture for me but am not sure if I am interpreting this correctly or I am just biased because of the feelings I have for her.

My interpretation is as follows;
She got stopped in her tracks, I drive a caravan and she got a free loaner as a caravan, she hates caravan’s, but she likes the guy driving the caravan, as a friend that is, and the artwork is a blessed hart. Maybe I am just interpreting this to make it fit but there are many others that I can fill this blog with and all of them have similar interpretations. We both have feelings for each other and we are in sync 90% of the time but she tells me that I am like a brother to her but her actions, her smile, and body language say something completely different.

Can anyone else give me their thoughts on this?
Thank you for reading and your feedback.

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